It might be hard to imagine what you can learn about co-parenting from the X-factor judges. After all, their non-stop squabbling is hardly a lesson in conflict resolution. And arguing in front of the children is a definite no-no.
But, like it or not, you and your ex-partner are your child’s mentors. Even if you or the other parent doesn’t live with them, your child will look to both of you for support and stability.
So, as your child’s mentor, think about how you could be a good role model for them:
Lead by example. Whatever’s happened in the past, try not to let your emotions or other issues get in the way. Being the bigger person is hard sometimes, but your child will recognise and appreciate it in the long run.
Always put your child centre stage. Focus on what’s best for your child. In most cases, that means both parent’s playing a positive role in their lives.
Give them the confidence they need to succeed. Children are more likely to have higher levels of self-esteem when both parents are there to support them.
For more guidance on how to work together with your child’s other parent, call the Child Maintenance Options team on 0800 988 8988 for a confidential chat.